Do you feel that you're cool? Or do you feel that you're amazing?
What I mean by that is if you want to feel "cool" it can stem from pressure to appear uncaring or look for outside approval for how to act, communicate and express yourself. You might think that showing how you really feel makes you stand out from the crowd in a bad way. It's human nature to want to belong and an easy way to bond with others is to share the same perspectives or behavior.
If you feel in awe of yourself and admire who you are as a person, that stems from being connected to the truth of who you are and why you're alive. You find that how you express yourself enhances your connections to others. You've probably had people tell you you're bold or courageous and that feels great!