Do you feel that you're cool? Or do you feel that you're amazing?

What I mean by that is if you want to feel "cool" it can stem from pressure to appear uncaring or look for outside approval for how to act, communicate and express yourself. You might think that showing how you really feel makes you stand out from the crowd in a bad way. It's human nature to want to belong and an easy way to bond with others is to share the same perspectives or behavior.

If you feel in awe of yourself and admire who you are as a person, that stems from being connected to the truth of who you are and why you're alive. You find that how you express yourself enhances your connections to others. You've probably had people tell you you're bold or courageous and that feels great!

If your experience has been that people react to you coldly or say you're intense or dramatic, that could be a sign of a disconnection. You aren't expressing yourself in a way that others can tap into, you're starting with a feeling of fear, not from truth. Sometimes you may fluctuate between both, having moments of deep intimacy with yourself and others then doubt your purpose and question your commitment. That's ok!

A simple way to shift this, or get back to feeling amazing, is to first ask yourself - what are you afraid of in this situation? Are you afraid your boss might think your idea is silly? Are you afraid the person on the other side of the table might not be interested in you? Are you afraid to look crazy or stupid? Whatever comes up from you, spend time to think about the why behind it. Has there been a similar situation in the past and what was the outcome? What's the worst thing that could happen? If the other person felt the same way, would you want to know?

 

 

Have you tried that before? Do you have a situation you need more support on? Leave it in the comments or send me a note to start getting some deeper insight.

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