Being in relationship with any human being isn’t easy - including being in relationship with yourself - your inner being/thoughts/feelings/body/etc - because there’s change, chaos, things out of your control.
When things ARE easy - laughter and smiles, fun and adventure, trust and reliability, communication and fornication ;-P - love feels easy and in flow.
So, what happens when things suck? When you break a promise, betray trust, “fail” at life. Does love stop existing? Does it mean you’re unlovable?
Intimacy is about intimately loving yourself so you can be more compassionate to those around you. Intimacy Alive isn’t about teaching you how to have the “right” relationship, it’s about building the internal muscles to express passionate love to yourself and another. Intimacy is about making that pact with yourself right now to take responsibility for your natural state and whole well-being in a way that is nourishing and loving instead of narcissistic - where you cultivate a love from within that also gives those around you permission to do the same.
Cultivating intimacy enlivens your spirit and creates space for natural, healthy rhythms of life. Intimacy is the space beyond surface. It’s beyond that part of general niceties and edging on the beautiful depths of imperfection that comes from being human. It’s like moving beyond the surface of the sea - wracked with waves that can thrash you around or give you a pleasure cruise depending on the wind - to the depths below that have a natural current that’s slower and more reliable. Connecting with a gradual, easy flow that can change over time.
First of all, being authentic is not just about being your best, most positive self. Yes, that’s great to show up that way as much as possible. However, AUTHENTICITY means being REAL with the moment. So, if you’re pissed off, angry, annoyed, etc - it’s ok to feel that and learn to express it in a way that’s not destructive/hurtful to another.
Surrender means to recognize you’ve done the best you can up until this point and there’s a part of what’s going on that’s out of your control. You’re in the weeds and there’s some other energy bigger than you that can see the 30,000 foot view.
I was heartbroken as I felt in love in a way I hadn’t experienced before - an appreciation had grown for the cadence of our connection and the sometimes frustrating differences became a reliable playground for expressing love. There were joyous embraces and yet places where we still held back. We were at different points of readiness for something more and held different expectations of what it meant to leap and be “all in” together - with me leading the charge of faithful abandon.
In a world that is becoming more complex and more “connected” (we are able to hear about and see what’s going on all over the world at the tip of our fingers), intimacy seems the least likely antidote for simplifying our everyday life. However, I believe it is actually the key to experiencing more time, more fulfillment, more love and more life.
Blessings. Gifts. Honors. Acknowledgment. It’s easy to be thankful for those things, right? When things are ‘good’ it’s so easy to feel grateful. What about challenges, disease, anger, bigotry, loss? Can you be thankful for the things in your life, or in the universe, that aren’t so pleasant?